I met up with Sheena, Kami and Keisha for a Sushi dinner at Iron Sushi on E. 10 between First and Second Ave. Sheena went to a rave in Flushing, Keisha and Kami went to Karaoke at Duet 48. I wanted to go to Karaoke but decided to go home because it was cold but as I was making my way to Crumbs I decided to go see a movie. I ended up seeing “Dear John” starring hottie Channing Tatum and the lovely/ultra hot Amanda Seyfried. The movie still has me thinking so much that I needed to blog about the movie.
“Dear John” is film adaptation of Nicholas Sparks’ novel of the same title; for those of who don’t know him, he is well known for his novel “The Notebook.” Well Spark’s must be a bucket of love or knows how the human heart works because this movie had me reeling with love and joy. If a film critic asked me, I would give this movie four thumbs up not because it was a romantic tearjerker and we sometimes need that in our lives but because it was close to reality. What do I mean by real? I felt I was Seyfried’s character Savannah, I felt I was in the movie watching her not just on the screen but actually there. The movie emanated so much emotion and truth…it had me thinking of my past relationships.
I hear most people never find true love. They have to settle because maybe they are getting older, have kids, money troubles, too comfortable or tired of playing the game. Savannah married Tim because she was a goodhearted person and saw someone in need and denied herself of true love because she saw someone who needed her more and was there in the moment–not at war where John felt he was needed more. Maybe he extended his tour because he loved his job and his country more than Savannah or maybe he felt guilty for not stepping up to help his country in a time of need. Tim needed Savannah more and John needed to support his country more. At the time they just did not need each other like they wanted…key word “wanted.”
Life has a funny way of throwing people in our lives at funny times. People are put in our lives to serve a purpose and once that purpose is over they disappear or step down from duty. Some people are staples in our lives because there is a part of us that will always need them. Savannah and John fell in love within two weeks of knowing each other…what purpose was that? Who knows but it happened. We never know why people come into our lives. Now we should know by now that everyone that slips into our lives does not need to be there.
I think about this when I hear women being beat by their husbands, boyfriends or significant others for many years and never have the courage to walk away. Maybe that is the devil or pure fate. Why would fate put bad seeds on our path or journey? Only the person can know but I hope everything and everyone comes with a lesson. Believe it or not, this was the topic of my conversation at dinner tonight so maybe I need to explore this very thing more.
However, Seyfriend and Tatum have amazing on screen chemistry. I looked into Tatum’s eyes and I saw that he is a better actor than I thought. He stepped out of himself and became vulnerable and lovable. Seyfried showed she has diversity in her roles and that she is truly a beautiful actress. Not beautiful appearance (because we all know she is) but her talent and technique is completely beautiful. She is believable and she took on her role. The movie was well executed. I also loved how the movie portrayed how miscommunication can get in the way of how we truly feel about people–the same way John and his father were never able to truly communicate until the last minute.
This was a great movie and I recommend this movie for those who want to see a great romantic movie but who also want to see a movie that explores what it means to be human–love, emotions, communication, sense of duty, wanting versus need, sense of lost time, pride, guilt, parenthood, etc. This movie has it all. Kudos to the entire movie crew because this movie was executed well. I cannot compare this to “The Notebook” because it was truly a completely different movie experience.
PS- What is with these movies with kissing in the rain? Ask a black girl to be kissed in the rain and she would complain about her hair!! I know I would.
